Sunday, December 26, 2010

Money & Responsibility

Be responsible with the money you receive. That's all I can really say.

I grew up in an upper middle class family. I've never had a job - not even a pseudo one like babysitting. I've never had to worry about the money for my expenses not being there. I've also never really been given money (with the exception of gifts). It was more so, "I need XYZ" and then my parents would usually give me the money for it. Ever since I entered high school, my father was against paying for things directly... he liked to give me the actual money and then have me pay for it (ex: my cell phone bill... he would put the money in my account and then I would pay for it through my account). Apparently this was his way of teaching me how to use money.

With my SD, this was the first time that I had actually received money that relatively served no purpose. It was just... there, for me to do whatever I wanted with it. It didn't even really feel like "real money" (if this makes any sense) because I didn't feel like I had worked for it.

Naturally, my financial perspective quickly became skewed. I didn't think about prices or money or anything at all. It was a complete nonissue. I was smart enough to save a decent amount, but even now I'm still confused as to where some of the money went... okay, I know - lots and lots of small random things that added up over time.

When I went shopping, I never looked at tags. I would pick up the tab at restaurants and bars without even thinking twice. If someone couldn't do XYZ because they were trying to save money, I'd go ahead and tell him/her it was on me. I had complete and absolute financial freedom because the money I was getting weekly was 100% mine. I did not have to be accountable for it and thus, I did whatever the hell I wanted with it.

Okay, I know I made that sound pretty awesome. It was and even now, since I saved some, I still have a great deal of financial freedom, especially in comparison to many of my peers. However, I was acting like my generous circumstance would never end - as if the money would be a consistent trait of my life. Obviously, since I ended it with my SD, it wasn't.

I learned that it is important to think about the future financially when in an arrangement. He could end it any day and vice versa. Responsibility with money is an invaluable trait.

1. Save, save, SAVE. This is crucial if you want to maintain a certain lifestyle even when you don't have a SD. My grooming habits add up - products, gym membership, spas & salons, etc. I make sure that I always have enough money to cover these extra necessities.

2. Invest in things that will pay off in the future; invest in yourself. Whether it's finding an Italian language tutor or buying a classic black dress and heels for future SD meetings and dates, it's never a bad decision to spend money on something that will make you a more interesting and attractive individual, especially in regards to the sugar world.

3. Don't lease anything. I never did this, but I have heard stories of girls going out and leasing a brand new Porsche because they were getting a nice allowance and then the relationship going south.

4. Keep track of where the money is going. Or else you'll end up like my friend who is slightly confused as to where the 15k her past SD gave her went.

5. Be discreet about the money. I half-assed this tip... while I never mentioned the money to anyone except a very close friend, my spending habits did make some (nosy) people toss a few questions my way. My responses were always vague and ambiguous so they probably just chalked it up to me being a spoiled brat, but still - avoid these situations if you can.

6. Be well-informed about banks and their rules. You DON'T want little red flags going up on your account. I bypassed any suspicions by keeping most of the money in cash (except what I saved), but this also led to me having ridiculous spending habits. For some reason, while my conscious won't let me touch the money in my savings account, it thinks everything in my purse is fair game.

7. Think before buying. I didn't and I wasted a lot of money. Don't do this.

Friday, December 24, 2010

Long time, no post

Hello ladies --

It's been a ridiculously long time since I've posted. It was half-painful, half-enlightening to go back and read over my old posts. Wow, I have learned and grown a lot since those days.

1. I am no longer with Mr. 50s. Yes, he gave me 1.5k every time we met, but I literally had to down alcohol during those precious moments before sexy time. The first time we had sex, I drank 4 dirty martinis at lunch and then 3 glasses of wine in the room. This is during the daytime too. I had to get a bartender to drive my car with me inside of it back to my place because I didn't want to tell any of my friends the story and I was too drunk to lie. DO NOT do this.

2. Just because a SD is great on paper does NOT mean he is the best SD for you. Going back to Mr. 50s - he was a nice man, the type people respect. But there was NO chemistry between us. I can't recall a single conversation we had because all of our conversations were composed of small talk.

3. Much of the interaction with men off SA is a power struggle. Here are a few tips I've learned: The moment you care about having the upper hand is the moment you will completely lose it. If you play games with men, they will play games with you and the cycle will never end. These men aren't stupid; they're successful. They know when you're being fake and when you're being genuine. Don't kid yourself - you're not that good of an actress. They have YEARS of experience on us.

4. 98% of the men on these "sugar sites" are not quality men. However, there are exceptions. I know - I've met and still keep in touch with quite a number of them so there is definitely hope. Just never forget that it's the internet and anyone with access and a few extra dollars can become "Andrew from Los Angeles who has a networth of 50 million and wants to spoil YOU" in ten minutes.

5. If you wouldn't have sex with Mr. XYZ if he wasn't giving you an allowance or filling up your closet with Miu Miu and Louboutins, then that technically makes you an escort. Hate to break it to you, darling. The word "escort" isn't a bad word though. There are many admirable women who are escorts. Seriously - I've met some. If it works for you, then that's fantastic. But you're coming across like a bimbo with her head in the sand if you remain in denial. Having to get smashed before taking off your clothes counts too.... and I am saying this from my little glass house because my arrangement with Mr. 50s was straight from the escort handbook.

6. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable, open, and honest with how you feel. When you get defensive, you automatically make the other person put his defenses up. Be diplomatic, sincere, and direct.

7. Just leave the words "spoil" and "princess" off your profile. Entitlement issues make the good guys click "X" on your profile.

8. Personality matters.

Saturday, September 11, 2010

So

I have a SD.

A very, very, very, very generous one... and easy to please.

I really hit the jackpot.

I hope this lasts.

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

HUGE update!!

Hi lovely ladies!! I'm back with some news.

So this past week, I met with a potential SD for two nights in a row... was supposed to meet for a 3rd, but he left town early for god knows why. Anyways, that was a very interesting and fun two nights. He's in his mid 30's and I'm very attracted to him as a person (we have tons of fun together), but not so much sexually... although I do like kissing him. And I love the way he smells. He wined and dined me and there's a really funny story (let's just say I can't go back to that hotel bar). However, although he said he wanted to "commit" to me in an arrangement and he quite clearly wanted to have sex with me, he didn't take care of his part and instead left town early without even telling me. Ugh. That's all I have to say. Granted, I may have handled the sugar situation on my part a little roughly. I switched into business mode and it may have been too cold. I hope he contacts me again when he's back in town though because we just get along together. He would be a nice... I don't know - friend? Occasional fling? Definitely not a legit sugar daddy since even the sugar he was supposedly offering is not anything incredibly substantial, but well... I suppose he has received the fun guy discount. We'll see.

Okay.... so there's another potential SD. And he's sort of old. Oh, what the hell, he's just straight up old. 53. He looks it too. He's very, very nice and completely enamored with me. After our first lunch, he told me that he definitely wanted to enter an arrangement with me starting as soon as possible and when the valet brought my car up, he gave me a hug and handed me a wad of cash. I counted it... it was $780. For a one hour lunch. He's offering in the neighborhood of 6k a month, plus shopping when we travel (and there's a Vegas trip planned in October with another sugar couple). He's very busy with time so we would meet once a month and I'm pretty sure it would only be for a few hours. This is such an amazing opportunity. He's legit, kind, and very nice. The classic sugar daddy. It's just the sex thing... hmm, nothing a little wine can't take care of I suppose. But does that make me an escort??

I'm talking to some other potentials too. It's so funny because I used to drag out the process, but now I'm all about talking on the phone soon if we like each other's pictures and then if the phone conversation goes well, meeting in person asap. Once in person, everything can be figured out so much more quickly and efficiently.

I think that I want 1 Main SD and then maybe 1 or 2 "fun" daddies. There's this one guy that I'm talking to (waiting to hear back from him) and he is the HOTTEST older man I have ever seen in my life. I want to climb into his pictures and do all sorts of awful, but deliciously naughty things to him.

Oh, did I mention, I was given $780 for a ONE HOUR LUNCH!?! That is so crazy!!! I really think I'm going to say to Old SD because offers like that do not come around every day. Sigh, I need to think and quick too.

Btw, when I get ready for a SD date/meeting, it's almost as if I become a different person. Not only am I a little more sophisticatedly (aka older, but still sexy) dressed, but I act different too. It's as if I go from being "college girl" to "alluring sugar baby." Okay, that's a cheesy way of putting it, but it's how I feel.

I've started to also notice what draws all these men toward me... apparently they love that I'm young, but carry myself as if I'm older. Something about the youth and maturity (well, I don't claim actual maturity, but I know how to act mature, be articulate, and I like to think that I carry myself with poise and class) really turns them on. I have literally been called "a treat" by every single potential SD I've met. It's a weird pattern lol.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Okay, really this time: WTF

There's this one pot that I've been talking to for a while (before I left for both of my trips this summer - not Golden SD) and so far he has seemed completely genuine, interested, and enamored. I really thought he might be the one (SD speaking that is, of course lol). Suddenly, tonight he sends me a text that says he'll have to pass on any arrangement with me because he has a feeling in his gut that this wouldn't end positively between us. That's near exact wording too. What was he even trying to say?? We haven't even met in person (we were supposed to in a couple weeks). This is so random. I'm sane enough to handle being told the reason... not just some vague sentiment. Ugh, and what sucks is that I've told him some personal information. Nothing too in depth (ie: he couldn't stalk me unless he really invested his energy, time, and money into it), but more than I've told any other pot. Now it's just going to feel weird knowing that someone out there knows the town I went to high school in (it's a fairly small town). Lesson #343 learned: Don't tell anything remotely personal until I meet a pot SD in person, and even then... keep a fairly tight lip.

Anyways, now that I'm actually nearing up to the time when I am able to physically meet pot SDs, they all disappear!!!! Talk about irony!

Send me some sugar luck, my ladies. :) I need it!

On two completely unrelated side notes, I'm thinking of creating a blog where I just post my favorite pictures I come across (I know, original lol) and I've just recently started eating "paleo" and WOW... I have never had so much energy. I feel like the energizer bunny during my daily jogging now!

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

New Profile

So I've deleted my old one (hope those last messages I sent are still able to be read!) and created a new one on SA.com. This will be my 3rd profile. It seems like 1 month is the life expectancy of a hot profile... in fact, after 3 weeks, everything starts to die out. I suppose it just gets lost among the mix of other profiles screaming "ME!! PICK ME!!"

Every time I've created a new profile (err.. all two times haha), I've taken a slightly different approach. The content is more or less the same, but the style and wording are both switched up. I also use different pictures. Here's the thing that creeps me out though... this one guy in NYC has messaged all three of my profiles - even the brand spankin new one that just got approved at 3 this morning!! Okay, maybe he's just genuinely interested in who he thinks is behind the profile, you may be thinking.... No, I'm pretty sure he knows it's me. In fact, I even spelled it out for him with my 2nd profile (aka "We've talked before and discovered that we weren't a good match). The fact that he addressed me in this recent message by the name I told him when I originally talked to him with my 1st profile gives it all away. Sigh... the creepiest part is that we have the exact same last name. Anyways... moving on.

Do you SBs feel like it's a smart move to create a fresh profile every now and then? I do so mainly because since I'm not a premium member, my profile gets pushed far back after a while.

Friday, July 30, 2010

Whiskey Tango Foxtrot

I've read about it on other SBs blogs... apparently the second you blog about how great your prospectives are in the sugar world, everything comes to a freaking dead halt!!! I've never had a potential SD never email me back... but it has happened... not once, but twice. Sigh. And they seemed to be good potentials as well. I'm still in contact with the one that I really want to meet, but after this post he'll probably saddle up a unicorn and fly away into Lollipop Sunshine World tomorrow morning. I thought this curse was just a myth! :( Or maybe it's just the natural ebb and flow of things... or maybe it means this is time to create a fresh profile?